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Knowingly or unknowingly we all navigate our family dynamics with spoken and unspoken agreements about our place and roles in the family.  Some agreements both spoken and unspoken are based on hierarchy out of honour or respect. Others are founded in guilt, some in giving and taking. Other agreements still spoken or unspoken are created out of modelling and observation. … Read More

Sometimes when I’m not coaching or writing, when I’m not on a call with friends and family, this is me on a cold wet afternoon in London. In my loungewear, makeup-free on a cold wet afternoon at home, I’m me too. In both looks, I feel good, but the world has a way of making us feel like we are … Read More

In your daily interactions with friends, relatives and partners, when something painful happens do you: A – Allow yourself to feel the pain and learn something from it so you can come out of it more knowledgeable and better equipped to prevent a recurrence. Or help yourself handle difficult or challenging circumstances with more grace. Or B – Do you … Read More

We had just finished lunch, still sitting at the table. “But what about the secret tears moments? Are you telling me that you’ve never had those?” She asked. “What are the secret tears?” I asked. She stared at me dumbfounded, I stared back perplexed.  “I mean those moments when he does things that hurt you. You can’t tell anyone. It’s … Read More

She wanted to go to the park, I didn’t. I wanted family time watching Mulan but she didn’t. Feelings and energy are intertwined. Bruce and I don’t like the energy of compromise so we don’t invite it in our marriage or home. Acknowledging each other’s feelings is important to us, we want to feel valued and we all want to … Read More